Three Little Words in Relationships
There are many things that we can do to lift up and strengthen our interpersonal relationships. One of the most effective techniques involves the use of saying three special words.
1. "I'll Be There"
If you ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there." Being there for another person is one of the greatest gifts that we can give to another.
When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them as well as to ourselves . We are renewed in love, as well as in friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.
2. "I Miss You"
Perhaps more marriages could have been saved and strengthen if couples simply and sincerely say these three words to each other. "I miss you."
These three words act as a powerful affirmation that lets partners know that they are wanted, treasured and loved.
3. “I Respect You”
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect conveys the feeling that another person is a true equal. For example, if you were to talk to your children as if they were adults, you will probably strengthen the bonds and become close friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships. Do make the other person feel important and do it sincerely.
4. “Maybe You’re Right”
This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed emotions. The flip side to "maybe your right" is the humility of admitting, "Maybe I'm wrong".
Let's face it. When you have a heated argument with someone, all you do is cement the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not change their stance and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you.
Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door to further explore the subject, in which you may then have the opportunity to get your view across in a more rational manner.
5. “Please Forgive Me.”
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures.
A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.
6. "I Thank You"
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness.
On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not
have the attitude of gratitude.
7. "Count On Me"
A true friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient in the recipe for a good friendship. It is the emotional glue that bonds most people.
Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be true and steady friends.
When troubles arise, a true friend is one that says "count on me"
8. "Let Me Help"
Best friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot
a hurt they do what they can to try to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in to help.
9. "I Understand You"
People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the other person accepts and understands them.
Letting your spouse know in so many different ways that you understand them is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. This applies for any relationship.
10. "I Love You"
Perhaps the most important three words you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to be appreciated and to be wanted.
Your family, your friends and yourself all need to hear these three words. "I Love You"
When spoken or conveyed, these statements have the power to forge new relationships, deepen old ones, and restore relationships that have mellowed.
These three word phases can be used to enrich any relationship. Use them and enjoy better relationships in your life today!
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Three Little Words in Relationships