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Sunday, August 10, 2008

Give Honest and Sincere Appreciation

This post talks about the simple, yet effective principle of: "Giving Honest and Sincere Appreciation"...

... and is the second principle listed within the category of "Fundamental Techniques in Handling People" as mentioned in Dale Carnegie's best selling book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People."

I'm about to reveal something that is a fundamental, yet little known truth of human behavior. This fact is that everybody, from the lowest peasant to the mightiest of emperors, seeks to obtain a feeling of importance.

Athletes strive so hard for victory as they seek the feeling of importance at being the best at what they do.

Employees work so hard to get promoted as they seek the feeling of importance and recognition for their contribution.

Some people get their sense of importance from earning a lot of money while others get their sense of importance from things such as charity work and donations.

So, you might be wondering, how does the fact that everybody seeks a feeling of importance factor into our principle of "Giving Honest and Sincere Appreciation"?

In a nutshell, give people the praise that they deserve and crave for (in order satisfy an individual's need to feel important), and you will find that the world will be a much easier and friendlier place to live in.

Note that what this principle advocates is NOT flattery.

Universally despised act of flattery is defined as giving a person excessive or insincere praise. However, what is advocated here in this post is to "Give Honest and Sincere Appreciation".

For example, say thank you when someone does something nice for you. Make a special mention when somebody makes a special effort to dress up or does something for you.

Everybody likes to be appreciated. How often have you heard this phase. "So-and-so does not appreciate me."

The simple act of giving honest and sincere appreciation does indeed work wonders. Why don't you go ahead and try it right know and show some appreciation to a loved one.

Do leave a comment to share how it works out for you.

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AxedbyDax said...

Nice blog you have here.Very clean and full of interesting reads.Keep it up.

Anonymous said...

That's right. I love when someone appreciates my work. Though I never expect such thing as it's very difficult for someone to appreciate others. I appreciate whenever I like someones work. Even if the relations are not so good. And appreciating younger ones really helps them and they start respecting you.

Anonymous said...

actualy i do give. that is why people like me because i see good in every side of a thing..no matter how bad other look at it.

WebbieLady said...

yes, everybody likes to be appreciated and i do think they actually deserve it. people are working actually and only if someone notices, i think they even work better.

Sherry Go Sharing said...

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Wenbin Nah said...

@axedbydax - Thanks for the complement

@guttu - I think someone needs to take the first step to get the cycle of positive appreciation started. Why not you?

@rogue - Good for you. The world would be a much better place if we were all like you.

@webloglearner - Thanks for agreeing with my viewpoint.

@sherry - Sent u a PM

Anonymous said...

Isnt it lovely when someone comes to your blog and says great blog! or great post! that is priceless, it makes you feel its all worthwile.

Patricia Rockwell said...

These two thoughts together--the appreciation and the not criticizing. Oh, if only we all lived each day doing just these two things!

Anonymous said...

very well-written. i really liked what you just wrote. everybody needs a little appreciation :)