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Do you want do develop real friendships? Do you want to help yourself by helping others? Do you want people to like you?
If so, then read on...
Thus far, in my summary of Dale Carnege's book entitled "How to Win Friends and Influence People", we have explored the
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want
Now, we move on to the first of six ways to make people like you.
Become Genuinely Interested in Other People
Dale Carnegie notes that "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
All of us human beings, want to be admired and respected. That is what motivate corporate executives to climb the corporate ladder, mountain climbers to scale the highest peaks and you and i when we perform our daily routine each and every day.Besides the desire to be important, each human being is also faced with a multitude of different problems each day. Problems may range from large problems such as facing a serious disease such as cancer to the smallest of problems such as having a bad air day.
The point which i am trying to make is that: each person is generally focused on his or herself, with his or her own problems and objectives. The special individual which is able to put his or her needs aside and focus on the needs on others will be highly regarded and treasured.Just look at people in society who specialize in focusing on the needs of others. The doctors, nurses and volunteers for various charities and social services. These people are all highly regarded and treasured in the minds of the public in general.
Why?
There is a power when we reach out to other people with a focused and sincere interest, coupled together with a smile.Take the time to take an active interest in the lives of those around you. Ask, "How was your day today?" People will ultimately remember that you took the time and effort to be interested in their lives and will appreciate you for that.
If you are interested in improving your interpersonal communication skills, you might consider purchasing Dale Carnegie's all time best selling book from Amazon through this link. How to Win Friends and Influence People
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Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
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2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
8 comments:
We do need these kind of people at churches. Genuine people who are interested at other people, without being fake :)
This is so true. I wish I had enough hours in the day as I am so much a people person myself.
If you truly go into each interaction with each person with the belief that YOU will learn something and be a better person for that interaction, then your relationships will improve. Your focus on the other does not have to start with altruism--it can start with the understanding that we LEARN something from everyone we meet.
These principles will still be powerful 200 years from now. Thanks for the reminder. :-)
This is a good book, a classic. I like your outline.
Sadly, although it is important to be flexible, people who put their needs aside and focus on the needs of others aren't always respected more.
Though, they most certainly should be.
Thank you everybody for your wonderful and insightful comments.
Indeed, before we expect others to be interested in us, we should first show in interest in others.
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